This is how it begins: Your guy pops the question and tells you that his family is just going to love you, especially his mom. You’re the daughter she never had. You assume that means she’s going to be supersupportive of all your choices, will offer help when you ask for it, but otherwise, stay out of your life and marriage. How perfect.
Meanwhile, his mom has a fantasy of her own. She assumes that since you’re so crazy about her son, you see her as an authority on marriage and children—and her son. Of course you’ll want lots of advice from her because you want to be just like her. She can’t wait to start “helping.”
Call it the clash of the fantasy lives. The result: 60 percent of women use words likes “strained,” “infuriating” and “simply awful” to describe their mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship.